About Me

I’m not your typical writer. This is my first proper jab at writing something like this, so expect rookie mistakes here and there. But I learn from mistakes and work on them, so hopefully this gets better with time. By no means am I an expert — I’m just a regular guy trying to process the world one day at a time.

Most of the takeaways here come from a very limited sample size — my life experiences, my social circle, stuff I see online, random debates, social media feeds, movies, relationships, observations. Basically me trying to connect dots. So statistically speaking, no, this isn’t some perfectly representative study of humanity. But I don’t think injustice suddenly becomes irrelevant just because only a small number of people experience it. Even if 1 in a billion suffer from something unfair, it still deserves to be spoken about.

So what qualifies me to write this? Honestly… just me and my experiences. I’m a firm believer in God, and I genuinely think He made me for some purpose. I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what that could be, and the older I got, the more I realized there was one topic I kept coming back to — men and women, equality, relationships, and the way society treats masculinity.

I don’t know if this is the purpose, but I’ve been passionate about this stuff since I was ridiculously young. And when I say young, I mean weirdly young.

I still remember being annoyed in school because planets and Earth were referred to as “she.” I used to purposely write “he” in exams knowing fully well I’d lose marks. Looking back, it’s hilarious — tiny me was already protesting the system for absolutely no reason. That’s probably when I realized I naturally question things instead of just accepting them because everyone else does.

Another thing that used to drive me mad was school punishments. Boys would get hit with canes, made to kneel down, publicly embarrassed… while girls usually got much lighter treatment for the same thing. At that age I didn’t understand physical differences or social dynamics — I just saw unequal treatment, and got angry.

Then came academics. Girls consistently outperformed boys around me, and I hated it because no matter how much I tried, school just didn’t click for me the same way. Sports, though? Completely different story. Boys dominated there, and that made me question something:

If society accepts biological differences in sports, why does everyone act like boys and girls are identical in every other area?

One of the first things I searched on Google when we finally got internet at home was the difference between male and female brains. I was probably looking for confirmation bias. But I was shocked when I actually found studies supporting some of what I felt. Girls’ brains generally mature earlier than boys’. They also tend to perform better in verbal communication and memory-heavy learning — which is basically what most schools reward. Boys generally lean more toward hands-on learning, risk-taking, movement, and practical problem-solving.

So in a memorization-heavy education system, girls naturally had advantages in certain areas. Add to that the fact that in India, fluency in English is almost treated as a direct measurement of intelligence — and girls around me got praised constantly for being articulate and academically strong. Meanwhile me and my friends — usually the last-rankers, backbenchers, sports guys, troublemakers — were constantly compared to girls and made to feel dumb.

The debater in me always wanted to argue:

“Okay fine, now make them compete with us in sports too then.”

But nobody cared about that argument.

As I grew older, I honestly thought life would balance my views out. I thought maybe I’d meet different people, gain more perspective, calm down a bit, and start appreciating things differently. Instead, my frustration grew. The more I observed relationships, media, social expectations, and the way men are talked about today, the more I felt like society had started going too extreme in one direction. Somewhere along the line, masculinity itself started becoming something people apologize for. And I’ve had enough of that.

That doesn’t mean women’s struggles aren’t real. Of course they are. But equality should not require constantly villainizing men or treating masculinity like some defect that needs fixing.

So this blog is basically me documenting my thoughts, observations, frustrations, questions, and experiences from my tiny corner of the world. I’ll try to ground things in science wherever possible, but yes, I’ll probably have biases too. Then again… who doesn’t?

At the end of the day, I’m just a guy trying to ask honest questions in a world where everyone seems terrified of doing that now.